People in NorCal (Northern California) are not very outgoing or social and too hypertrendy and self conscious. I expected to find SoCal (Southern California) people fake and unfriendly, but this could not be further from what I experienced. The people are airier, kinder and had much less angst. SoCal is mainly Los Angeles, Orange County, and the valley. NorCal is mainly San Francisco, Silicon Valley, etc. SoCal is full of mainly Hispanics and Whites, along with some Blacks along the way. Northern California is mostly Asians and Whites and it is really not as diverse as Southern California. NorCal is like Colorado, Seattle and parts of the East coast.

The differences

1. Southern Californians are much more frank about physical attractiveness as cultural currency than Northern Californians, both their own and that of others. SoCal-ers are much more likely to say to your face “You look great,” whereas NorCal-ers just seem to say “Nice to see you.”

2. The various families in the northern order are relatively solitary by choice, preferring to write (the colloquial parlance being to “blog”). Meanwhile, the various Southern genus samples seek notice, and even fame, at every opportunity

3. Southern Californians are in-your-face about being rich, successful, famous, sexy, “ballers” etc., if they are. And even if they aren’t. Northern Californians seem to adopt a more circumspect, stealthy, understated approach to success and achievement, bordering on almost disingenuous modesty in the vein of the Harvard Slouch. They either have or adopt a somewhat neurotic air, despite their quite evident success. In Silicon Valley, there are 6,000 registered Ferrari’s. Good luck finding one. Seems every Ferrari owner drives a Prius to work. Go into Atherton, Los Altos Hills, Woodside, Portola Valley, Alamo, Blackhawk, Hillsborough or Marin County (NorCal’s homes for the wealthy) and good luck finding a Bentley or Rolls or Lambo. They are there I imagine, but people don’t seem to drive them.

3. Southern Californians prize being very nice and positive to everyone about everything, even if it seems totally fake. Northern Californians seem very willing to provide constructive commentary, assuming that failure is a good learning experience.

4. Southern California is all-accepting of fashion, behavior, eye contact, speech, oversharing, general weirdness, everything. The only rule is to be original and put yourself out there. In Northern California, people seem to want to blend in and that destroys them. It can lead groups to enforce rigid and arbitrary rules. People from San Fran, and more specifically the blow ins i.e techies moving there, hipsters, yuppies with the eco-friendly badge, confused pseudo feminists, indie cats etc are too pretentious.  Always acting a part, never really themselves and ironically enough considering all the chillness and tolerance are often cited, by many that have lived here for an extended period of time, as extremely judgmental, dry and reserved all at the same time.

5. The women in Socal look far better than the women of Norcal in general. They just put in more effort into their appearance. However, I would say the best looking women in CA are in SD, OC, and Santa Barbara. LA supposedly has plenty of them but for some reason you just don’t see them walking down the street… they are kind of hidden at exclusive locations.

The people who always talk about how great SF is, generally haven’t spent significant time anywhere else and/or are druggies. SF is a druggie mecca  If you love to do drugs – come to SF

It is just maze of suburban sprawl in the middle of more suburban sprawl. Downtown SD is a sleepy convention town with a lot of cheesy bars and bad restaurants. The city has more of a suburban feel, and there is a serious lack of public transportation or interesting nightlife.Though it is the 2nd largest city in the state it doesn’t feel like a city to me. I think it has more in common with places like Phoenix or Dallas. I gave SD a chance and the people are incredibly bland, uncultured and too laid-back. I’m all for the beach, but EVERY weekend doing the same thing at Moonlight Beach is just a bit much for me. Nobody seems really passionate about anything.

As for UCSD, it’s a great school if you’re crushingly boring, ride a longboard, and think you’re “chill” and don’t enjoy the company of others. Even the Greek system is filled with socially weird people that you feel like you are wasting your time when you hang out with them. The general atmosphere of UCSD is shockingly boring and depressing. UCSD students are just dying to graduate and leave asap.

The San Francisco Bay Area (along with L.A.) are the best place in the country to be a single woman (if you’re into limp-wristed pansexual guys). In the US single men outnumber single women by one million in the 20 to 34 age group! Also to add to single mens misery, get this; IN EVERY CITY IN THE US OF 50,000 PEOPLE OR MORE, SINGLE MEN OUTNUMBER SINGLE WOMEN IN THE 20 TO 39 AGE GROUP! Holy dog shit, what a horrible dating scene for men in America! It’s only in the age group of single people 40 and up that single women start to outnumber single men in America. Add to this fact that America has the highest rate of overweight people in the world (50% of Americans are overweight) and you have a dating nightmare for men!

That’s why you never hear women in the US complain that they have a hard time meeting men. California is the worst state as far as the ratio goes for men. LA, San Diego and San Francisco are horrible places to try to meet women. San Jose, California has the worst ratio of single men to single women in the US. For every 1000 single women in San Jose, there are 1109 single men!

Research has also shown that as the sex ratio augmented in favor of women, at first, as you would expect, the women simply turned fussy and went for richer and more powerful men. But at a certain point a curious thing happened: the amount of socioeconomic status a guy needed to get girl increased way more than the math would predict. Specifically when the ratio was tilted in favor of women by 10%, low status men became not 1.1 times less likely to get a girl but 2.3 times less likely and high status men 1.3 times less likely.

In other words, increase the number of males in a system too much and the number of females interested in pairing up GOES DOWN, due to some mysterious psychological trigger known as the Paradox of Choice. Women won’t pick and choose, they won’t choose at all.

Abundant choice is not something human beings are biologically evolved to cope with. We’d be better off with fewer decisions to make. As the number of choices grows further, the negatives escalate until we become overloaded. Constantly being asked to make choices, even about the simplest things, forces us to invest time, energy, and no small amount of self-doubt, and dread. At this point, choice no longer liberates, but debilitates. It might even be said to tyrannize.

The demographics explain a lot of things that I noticed in the US- the blasee, cloyed and smug expressions on the women’s faces, the war-like attitude of men towards each other- they have to compete for scarce women and jobs and positions that will attract women. The way one American guy usually looks at another is politely but with mistrust and as a competitor. Time to visit “male friendly” countries like Brazil, eastern Europe and Russia

This documentary Cluckin’ Chicken explores this topic. 

Don’t get too serious with people in SF because San Francisco is not a serious place. Lots of bars. Lots of options and nobody seems terribly interested in developing relationships. They have spoiled themselves to the point that they don’t even realize it.  This is one reason why 61% of the men and women are single. The other reason being demographics and the Paradox of Choice..

Transplants come to SF, have their outing, and then bug on out back home. Most of the women are total rubbish and super flakey or show up and you’ll wish they hadn’t (“I shaved my privates five days ago for my super jealous ex and he’s been stalking us for the last half hour…”).

Yup, that San Fran. You’ll run into lots of self-centered spineless hipsters, anti-social geeks, egoistic corporate idiots, hypocritical losers and the generally unpleasant. If you find this hard to believe, just take a look at online dating sites in the San Francisco area. The FEWER people signed up for online dating sites means the more success they are having meeting real people. High online dating means inability to actually meet people in the real world, or such picky standards that no actual people meet their unrealistic expectations. Similarly, high income people only seek others of similar income or higher, and high physical and mental well being mean they are only satisfied with other similar “10″ type people; everyone who is an “8″ or under isn’t even considered. Overall, SF is just a place to screw around.

The whole feminist agenda to turn everyone into gender neutral clones is utterly ridiculous and totally against nature! It destroys feminine qualities and promotes masculinity. I don’t want to see the human race reduced to a collection of indistinguishable hermaphrodites. Feminism is really just a PERVERTED form of *will to power*. Which is simply a will toward self-preservation and existence in general. One does not want to become enslaved or subjugated by others. It is a desire for freedom and independence. However, the single biggest reason men hold positions of power is that biologically they are driven to be more ambitious and take more risks than women. Many studies have been released in recent years (several conducted by women) showing that testosterone drives risk-taking, domineering, powerful behavior. Guess which gender has exponentially more testosterone? This doesn’t mean that women are inferior–why should risk taking, domination, and power be held in esteem over any other virtue or character trait? One can be submissive/weak and still hold power over others. This is the kind of power that one feels over one’s employer when one is highly skilled and experienced at a certain job position that few others are willing or capable to perform at all, to say nothing of performing as proficiently.

Based on basic biological drives, women and men will never achieve parity in accomplishment in certain fields. It just will not happen, but Feminism doesn’t like that and won’t accept this basic fact, so rather than to focus on individualistic desires and practical thinking, they wants to socially engineer society to fit their ultra-feminist/progressive vision. Their arguments are based on prefabricated rational reasons whose entire grounding lies in pure perception and persuasion. Stop rape? Right, they are still under the impression that rationality/reason precedes/dictates emotion. Accept that men and women are different, and let individuals make their own choices.

This discussion exists because people of all political persuasions, social backgrounds and economic conditions are debating within a narrow modern world-view and have simply accepted as fact a mushy blend of modern theory that repeatedly contradicts itself and stands in sharp contrast to an almost entirely forgotten world of opposing thought: that of the ancients. Only great philosophers were capable of introducing people to the deepest and most profound life, and without this introduction, people would forever remain in their respective caves.

Most people are incapable of true self-examination and self-understanding because they are ignorant of ancient philosophy, which poses the only alternative to the modern concept of man. The modern American university for what it really is: one big self-esteem seminar where students are taught self-validation (vanity) instead of self-examination(self-awareness). Professors are not forcing students to confront the most serious questions of life, but rather are handing them scrolls of paper certifying that the university has bestowed on them qualities which, in fact, they already possessed, those being “openness” and “tolerance.”

As Allen Bloom said it best: A serious life means being fully aware of the alternatives, thinking about them with all the intensity one brings to bear on life-and-death questions, in full recognition that every choice is a great risk with necessary consequences that are hard to bear. The modern university does not force students to confront these alternatives at all, much less seriously think about them. Therefore, the modern university fails in its purpose, which is to create students aware of the vast array of possibilities that life offers and capable of choosing the good life.

Vancouver Canada is a bit like having a good looking but vapid girlfriend/boyfriend that has absolutely no personality. It kind of keeps you hanging around for far to long hoping things will get better. But this city has good looks and thats all! Over 90% of the people here have nothing to say, no soul, no depth, just worried about ‘fitting in with their clique of sheep minded friends.

I found people there quite superficial and cold. Very defensive, paranoid and distant.  They POKE FUN or give you the ROUND Eyes if you try to be friends with them. You are a nobody if you don’t know anyone and most often, if you put an effort to get out there and meet people, you could be left with just a couple numbers of unfriendly cold assholes who choose to remain distant with you rather than befriend. Women are unapproachable, if you start a conversation with someone in a coffee shop they quickly cut you off. Life is basically restaurants and exercise.

Vancouver disappoints. It’s a great place to live if you’re upper middle class and boring. Vancouverites are also intolerant of people whose interests fall outside of the narrow band of activities to be done in and around the city: “Don’t like mountain biking? You must be lazy. Like the arts? Look we’ve got totem poles! Oh, you mean the Arts? You are lazy AND pretentious.” And nothing makes me cringe more than hearing people (vancouverites) refer to Vancouver as a “world class city.” It just isn’t. Not by a looong shot. Why not just admit “it’s a one horse town but I like it anyway”? At least someone can relate to that.

A city full of immature, selfish, boring, ignorant, self-obsessed, socially crippled brats.